Monday, 22 January 2007

Sexual Relationship Blues

“Between Two Worlds” links to this video by a woman named Dawn Eden, a very clever take-off on Bob Dylan’s “Subterranean Homesick Blues” from about 1965. I think Dylan’s must have been one of the very first music videos. (Leave it to Dylan to have been the first of something, as he was a groundbreaker in so many ways) I don’t know much about Ms Eden, but she has written a book, Thrill of the Chaste. She apparently partook in the “sexual revolution” in former days and then came to see the futility of it.

I see it too, all around me. As an employer, I have seen some of my own employees caught up in this trap, time after time over the years. I think of it as the “ordinariness” of sex in relationships in recent years. Sex just seems to be a de rigueur part of any relationship for young people now. Entering into a sexual relationship outside of the commitment of marriage more often than not leads to disaster, and yet it seems to happen so easily these days. The trouble is that the relationship begins with physical attraction and too-quick consummation. Then the parties get to know each other and the fights start. Usually it is the woman (or more often, young girl) who is hurt most. I don’t know if girls nowadays are so pressured into it, or if they are so insecure in themselves that they think they must cave in to a boy’s advances to keep him. Maybe it is the feminists’ “defeminization” of girls in the name of “liberation” that is to blame, and it’s just the “cool” thing to do. But when you get right down to it, it is actually the girl in the situation who has the control. We all know what (most) young men want. It’s the girl who can say, “No!”

By the way, if you want to see Bob Dylan’s original version, here it is:
One interesting sidebar here is the phrase from Dylan’s video, in my opinion one of the all-time classic song lines, “you don’t need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows” from which the 60’s or 70’s radical group known as the “Weathermen” took its name.

Take Care

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